[2022/11/01] agency

In my Peace and Justice class today, we talked about agency, which is a definition of freedom in short. It also helps determine whether a person or an event is violent. For example, when women are restricted in their rights, they don’t have the agency to do what they want or become what they could be. There’s a lot more to this word, but I am having a scattered brain now and that’s the most that I could write.

However, I want to use the word “agency” to link it to what happened between KF and me today. So… I got home really late, past 11:30 PM, and I told KF that I wanted to call him after I take a shower. However, right when he said that he was already sleepy, I rescinded what I said and told him to sleep by giving excuses like I would be taking my time and didn’t want him to wait on me. I blocked out any other requests to call from him after that and insisted on not calling him regardless. I think he was sad :(.

And that actually makes me wonder if I’m being so harsh on him / limiting his agency. Like I was the one telling him what to do – go to bed, not to call me, don’t wait for me, etc. But who am I to tell him to do all these actions? I’m KF’s girlfriend, yes, that’s true, but that doesn’t give me the right to command him. I think he should be able to determine what he wants to do and how he wants to do it. Now I just feel guilty; I shouldn’t do that next time. Maybe what I could do instead is to ask what he really wants and tell him my agenda. That way, he could make his own decision and let me know. Then we can work on something together from there…?

Below are some pictures of different events that happened today (went to Apple Store in Suburban Square to fix my phone, had QDOBA with Austin, and merged + stuffed a ton of credentials)

One thought on “[2022/11/01] agency

  1. Hi Tee πŸ™‚

    I’m back! πŸ˜€

    I saw you mention “definition” — and if you mention something related to language, then there’s a pretty good chance I might show up (LOL)

    IMHO language is a *very reliable* information technology. My overall hunch is that at some point in time, the definition of agency *in a commercial context* will pretty much be the focus of a website like agency.com … though perhaps *not yet*. πŸ˜‰ A more well-known case might be twitter.com (in English, what happens @ twitter.com is pretty much one of the dictionary definitions of “twitter” … *in a commercial context*).

    Until that happens all over the Web, we still need to use dictionaries … and one dictionary search engine I like to use is onelook.com (if you are familiar with DuckDuckGo.com and their so-called “!bang” codes you can easily look up a word like “agency” [ @ onlook.com ] by typing “!o agency” into the DDG search engine (I use DDG as my default search engine, so I just type !bang codes directly into my browser πŸ˜‰ ).

    Have I lost you yet?

    If not, then I will also add that I sometimes like looking up the etymology of a word, and there is a link to the etymology in the right-hand column of the onelook.com “SERP” (“search engines results page”) … and agency has a Latin root … which is linked to “*ag-” (a prefix which by itself is no longer present in modern languages, specifically: )

    Proto-Indo-European root meaning “to drive, draw out or forth, move.”

    Hope this helps! (LOL)

    πŸ™‚ Norbert

    ps: the “Connecting to %s” error I mentioned a while back — it is still there! 😯 Maybe ask for help @ wp.com πŸ˜‰


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